Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations they want what they can get while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot.
Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures. Similarly, don’t dream about an idealised future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet. Happy people live for the now; they have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different?
Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do and don’t do it for the money or glory. There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good people forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too. Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family in the process, says Dr Garcia Vega. Later, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged family.
Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you go along. This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind you need to actively choose to be happy.
We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else. And cherish people who are important to you. Research also shows that married people are happier than single people.
Active, busy, social people are the healthiest and happiest, in society. Get involved: make your motto ‘use it or lose it.'
Comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them. Focus on your goals and dreams so you can enjoy your ambition and achievements.
Just as you shouldn’t compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you then you can truly be yourself. Happy people are spontaneous, natural and real; they say what they think and feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free and authentic.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happy people don’t worry and they recognise that 90 per cent of worries never come true.
You might envy those laid-back bohemian types who just do things on the spur of the moment, but don’t be fooled. Happy people plan and organise, they have goals and a purpose. You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is you want or desire in the first place. So while those chilled-out friends might seem happy, they’re actually just drifting along.
Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort. Happy people get things off their chest, their motto is: get rid of it, or it will get rid of you. Similarly, work at developing optimistic thinking; happy people always look on the bright side.
Give what you have without expecting anything from others, You will be the happiest person in the world ! Expectations are the only reason for all sorrows.
What I've Learnt From My Life....
I've learnt that our backgrounds and circumstances may have influenced our lives, but we are responsible for who we become. I've learnt that if you start giving too much importance to some one in your life then you will lose your importance in their life. I've learnt that something that you do in instant can give you heartache for life. I've learnt that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. I've learnt that either you control your attitude, or it controls you. I've learnt that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down, will be the one who helps you get up. I've learnt that sometimes when I am angry I have the right to be angry but that doesn't give me right to be cruel. I've learnt that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you learned from them, and less to do with how many years you have lived. I've learnt that it is in't always enough to be forgiven by others, but sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. I've learnt that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret, it may change your life forever. I've learnt that sometimes the people that you love most in life, are taken from you too soon. I've learnt that you can't make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved, and the rest is up to them. I've learnt that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. I've learnt that it takes years to build up trust, and just seconds to destroy it. I've learnt that it's not what you have in life, but who you have that counts. I've learnt that you can keep on going, long after you think you can't. and finally the biggest thing what I've learnt from my life is, things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn't mean giving up...it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be and always remember life goes on........... Before you judge me, walk the path I have travelled, live my sorrow, my doubts, my fear, my pain and my laughter. I have my own story. When you have lived my life then you can judge me. If not then never try to do that.